We are quite the loving bunch, aren’t we? (women, that is). We can bring light into a room because we are nurturing even when we don’t try to be. The unfortunate truth however is that the world is not filled with good, honest people looking to be their best selves. Sometimes we meet people that bring us down or who push us to question our reality; under-mining us at every turn.
It’s okay if you feel hurt, betrayed or even angry when you have to deal with this. There are steps you can take to deal with some of these individuals. But today I’m not talking about difficult people (we’ve already spent too much time on them) I’m talking to my fellow goddesses. Are you feeling defeated? Overwhelmed? Like you don’t know who you are anymore? Then this post is for you.
I’m going to list some of the ways we can reclaim our power in situations where we feel hopeless and lost. We are in this together after all:
Be Protective Of Your Energy
As I said before, it’s not everyone that has your best interests at heart. When people disrespect you and what you stand for, you shouldn’t make excuses for them. I know it comes naturally to see the good in others even when they do us wrong, but we need to set a boundary. It’s good for us because it protects our energy and it’s good for the other person because it (hopefully) teaches them a lesson.
Our energy is divine and sacred; we shouldn’t waste it on people who don’t appreciate it. That only helps to reduce our self-respect — our power.
Don’t Be Afraid To Say “No”
The minute you become afraid to say “no” to anyone is the minute you give them power over you. No one should make you do anything you don’t want to do. And when you say “no”, a healthy person will understand that you are an individual with their own dreams and desires. A toxic person will get offended, that’s your opportunity to see who your real friends are.
Reclaim your power. Say “No”.
Start Making Decisions About Your Own Life
The world can be a scary place, especially at a young age. But sooner or later we learn that in life; nothing comes to us unless we work for it. The same can be said about our power/hidden potential. It’s very tempting to let other people make hard decisions for us because we don’t want to make a mistake we’ll regret. But the truth is, to reclaim our power means making all the difficult choices that come at us in life.
Having power isn’t all about the good times only ladies. It’s about soldiering through difficult times as well. The more we lead our own life, the better we begin to understand just how strong we really are. Ad so what if we make a wrong decision? What matters is it was OUR decision and no-one else’s. That is how we learn and grow
Trust Your Heart
Now, I’m not saying everything our heart tells us is correct; sometimes it’s wrong. But we get gut feelings when something is off, right? Learn not to ignore those gut feelings, no matter how small they might seem. Our bodies often tell us when things aren’t right and ignoring these sensations can harm how we process reality.
By trusting your heart, you hold true to your values. By holding true to your values you maintain authenticity. By maintaining your authenticity, you maintain your boundaries; you understand what you want in your life and what you don’t. You begin finding it easier to say “No” until it starts happening naturally. And when you are now in a space like this, you have more time and energy to focus on the critical decisions in your life.
Yes, the heart can sometimes be wrong. But it’s our heart, and we shouldn’t ignore it. It’s at the core of our being. With enough practice, our gut feelings become more accurate; we just need to put the work in.
Our power is waiting. Let’s go get it.
Reclaim Your Power (Lightning Round):
- Define who you are; know yourself inside and out.
- Set your standards, don’t let other people determine what they are.
- Learn to have self-control. Instant gratification is dangerous.
- Don’t be afraid to walk away from people who continue to disrespect your values. If they keep doing it even though you tell them to stop, chances are they’ll do it again. You simply deserve better.