How to Deal with Jealousy (Part 2)
For part one of this series of blog posts, please go here
Onward to Part 2, excited yet? 🙂
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Call Yourself Out When You Get Jealous
One of the most important things to do when you feel jealous is to admit it to yourself. Jealousy comes from a complex mix of emotions and feelings, getting through them can be difficult because it’s about owning up to feelings of not being enough (which isn’t true, but more on that later)
It’s only after we catch ourselves being jealous that we can begin taking the necessary steps to deal with jealousy.
Try talking to a friend you trust
Sometimes when we’re caught up in our feelings of jealousy, we don’t really get the complete picture. Our reality becomes centred on this one thing that’s bothering us and we become stubborn and unwilling to see things differently.
It helps to talk about our feelings of jealousy with a trusted friend who has our best interests at heart. A different perspective can help because jealousy can be the symptom of a larger problem we may need to work on.
Consider talking to someone you trust, it helps.
And of course, this goes without mentioning, but please don’t act on feelings of jealousy as soon as you feel them, it can hurt others, especially when they’ve done nothing wrong.
Look at it from a different perspective
Social media can be extremely misleading. Sometimes people get jealous over how others look and what they have. But remember, majority of people on social media only show their best selves.
By looking at it from a different perspective you might notice that other people are only giving the impression of being happy or successful, but are they really?
We don’t really get to see what happens behind closed doors, maybe the person we’re jealous of is going through a crisis. Maybe they’ve just lost their job or something worse. Considering these different perspective helps to come to terms with the fact that being jealous isn’t really the best solution.
With this in mind, it’s important to remember that we might actually be in a better position compared to those we might become jealous of.
Other Strategies To Deal With Jealousy More Directly:
- Remember how valuable you are. Jealousy is the result of wanting what you don’t have. Sometimes what we want isn’t what we need; sometimes we’re in a better position and don’t realize it. You are valuable, and no matter what you have, that stays the same <3
- Take a break from social media. Apps like Instagram, TikTok, Facebook and Twitter fuel a desire through ads and lifestyles portrayed. Take breaks and explore your own reality outside of others.
- Talk to a professional therapist to help you find any possible underlying issues. Think of it as a mental health exercise to become a better you.
- Be patient. If you keep doing what you do as best as you can, the results will show themselves over time. Nothing worthwhile ever just happens without some time in-between.
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