Nothing’s more important than a trustworthy group of friends (goddesses). With the right group, your bonds can endure anything that life throws at you. Good friends understand boundaries and respect them; they are the type to stick with you because they love you for who you are.
Many people like to think that good friends keep in touch every moment of every day. But I like to believe good friends (with a solid connection) can catch up months or even years later as if no time has passed.
You may be making a few changes in your life, removing toxic people and such. This post is meant to help you know who in your group of goddesses is worth keeping and who isn’t.
It’s not easy finding fellow goddesses to build a healthy tribe with, which is why I’ve listed — things to look for when you want to connect.
1. Support, Trust and Honesty
What is a group of goddesses without support from one another? Being there for your friends when they need you and vice versa is a good way to keep a good support network.
I need to clarify that being supportive doesn’t mean you are always there for every single thing. It means you are there when it absolutely matters. I believe any group with strong women should have a strong sense of individuality. No one should be leeching, everyone has their goals and they trust that their friends have their backs.
It’s easy to trust your tribe when you know that none of them will take advantage of your kindness or generosity. As I said before, no one likes a leech or an energy vampire.
And with more trust comes a higher level of authenticity in the group. And more authenticity is always a good thing because it encourages growth.
2. Listening, Like REALLY listening
Be part of a tribe that listens to understand.
Often times we are surrounded by people who listen to speak. Instead of hearing what we have to say, they quickly want to say what’s bothering them instead. This is a poor way of communicating on any level.
It also helps to have these qualities in yourself. Nothing destroys friendships more than not listening well.
And let’s say you’ve had a rough day and would rather rest instead of listening; have a group of friends that understand you need some space. Don’t feel pressure; that’s not what friends do to each other.
3. No judgment
We all make mistakes. No one is perfect. Nothing sucks more than having people that are meant to have your back judging you for everything you do.
Judging is easy, and quite toxic depending on the situation.
But the rest of the world already judges us for everything. None of us needs that in our tribes. We only need to respect and care for each other. And when we notice one of our own doing something that might hurt them we tell them with kindness.
4. Not Gossiping About Each Other
I don’t need to say too much here. This is an unspoken rule. If you care about your friends or they care about you; you help each other. Not gossip about one another.
5. Boundaries, Boundaries, Boundaries
Have friends that give you time to process your thoughts. When you’re surrounded by goddesses that value introspection it means they know your individuality and independence are important. And that level of respect is important in any well-meaning relationship
6. Cherish Forgiveness
When you mess up, respect your fellow goddesses enough to say “sorry”. And when they do something that hurts you, they should be able to do the same. When you care about someone, you own up to your mistakes and don’t try to manipulate them or trick them into forgiving you.
For long-lasting bonds to be built between you and your goddess gang, everyone needs to learn to be vulnerable with each other. We are not on this planet to crush each other and put each other down. We are here to uplift each other and reach for the stars.
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