It’s All About them
Toxic people are all about that “Me, me, me” life.
When there’s been a terrible disaster; it’s a sign for them (the toxic person) to get their life together. When you win a medal, it’s a sign for them to step up and do better.
Instead of taking the time to see life for what it is, toxic people choose to make everything that happens in the world all about themselves.
When a toxic person congratulates you, it’s to give the impression of being supportive. To appear like a good person. In truth, toxic people don’t consider the feelings and needs of others. Everything is on a win-loss basis.
Did someone say “insecurity”?
Look, I get it. Being insecure is not a bad thing — it doesn’t automatically make someone toxic. Healthy insecurity comes from people willing to work on themselves and people who acknowledge it.
Toxic insecurity can be found in people who blame others for how poorly they perform. Toxic people refuse to confront their own feelings and would rather project them on everyone else.
It’s the type of childish behavior that pushes everyone away and they’re left wondering what they did wrong. They behaved like entitled children; that’s why.
They Are Married To Anger
Anger is not a bad thing. We are allowed to get angry, in many ways it’s healthy. But people who have worked on themselves handle their anger with grace, like Bosses.
Toxic people on the other hand? They get triggered by the slightest inconvenience. And their anger is so overblown, you’d think someone has murdered their entire family or something.
People like this simply aren’t healthy for you to be around. They will drag you down with them.
Toxic people treat you like a possession
What’s that, you have a life? Do you have things you like that are not the same as others? You are unique and value your boundaries?
A toxic person has no idea what you’re talking about. You are their property. It doesn’t matter how many times you explain to them that you have a life to live; they expect you to always make time for them.
My advice? Leave.
Cruelty
Watch for people who take pleasure in other people’s suffering. It’s a big sign you’re dealing with someone cruel; someone with no empathy.
I would say, it’s easier to tell a person is cruel if you consistently see a pattern of behavior. If they are always laughing at someone else’s pain.
Chances are, you’ve probably seen them smile when you share some of your painful stories. It’s difficult for empathetic people to acknowledge that people like this exist, but they do. Be careful out there.
They are passive-aggressive
A small insult here — A small jab there — A poorly timed joke at your expense. These are the makings of toxic people.
They are cowards. They are afraid of being alone with their misery and would instead choose to bring you down without losing you. So they make fun of you indirectly, trying to chip at your confidence and make you feel as miserable as they do.
Do yourself a favour and surround yourself with people that respect you and don’t waste your time with all these mind games.
You’re a treasure, and if the toxic person doesn’t see it — it’s their loss.
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