Self-confidence is incredibly important, and it’s something that’s in short supply these days. Self-confidence is something we should aspire towards because it improves many (if not all) aspects of our lives.
Think about it, would you prefer a partner who talks to you nervously, constantly backpedals on decisions and is always doubting themselves? No. Because that would be unattractive. We need partners who are sure of themselves, people who, even when they’re not certain are willing to push through. True Self-Confidence is power that comes from within.
When someone is confident, it inspires confidence in others. When you are confident, you can overcome adversity and you aren’t easily put down. Self-confidence is how we succeed in life, without it we’re stuck feeling unsure of ourselves. Today I’ll share some tips on how to build our self-confidence. The list applies to ladies who are having trouble building self-confidence and anyone who is generally confident but having a hard time.
1. Remember That No-one Is Really Paying Attention
Sometimes people make the mistake of believing they are the centre of the world. I mean, technically we are the centre of our own world; but everyone else is the centre of theirs. Whenever we feel like we’re going to mess up or that everyone is watching us we should remember that humans aren’t the greatest at paying attention.
There are definitely some people who can pay attention far better than others, but these are few and far between. The point of remembering that no-one is really paying attention is to help ease all the expectations we sometimes put on ourselves. Sometimes we wonder whether people are looking at our shoes, our hair or our clothes and it shakes our confidence. When someone talks to you, you probably don’t even notice what their hair looks like or their shoes (and if you do, you probably don’t remember that for everyone you meet in a single day)
Take the pressure off yourself, girl. Seize the day and don’t worry about what people are thinking about you; they’re probably thinking about their favourite cheese.
2. List Your Accomplishments
In the modern day, it’s easy to live life fast, never taking the time to slow down and look at what we’ve achieved in our lives. I often encourage people to write down all of their achievements up until that point whenever they feel down. The list will come in handy when you need a reminder of how talented, gifted and capable you are.
The list may even remind you of a time you doubted yourself and still conquered the day. Sometimes that’s all we need to recover our self-confidence.
3. Practice Positive Affirmations
This practice helps you build your self-esteem and helps to silence that little voice in your head that makes you doubt yourself.
I recently wrote a post with affirmations to remember as we move through life. You can check them out here.
4. Practice Self-Care
The more we tend to our physical/mental health the more we gear ourselves up for success. Think of two boxers going at it in the ring; sometimes it’s not the weight class or technique that determines who wins. Sometimes it’s the resolve a competitor carries, the willingness and discipline that they’ve improved over time.
Meditating, exercising and giving ourselves time to enjoy life are some of the ways we can take control of our own minds. Overworking ourselves on the other hand is a sure way for us to start making simple mistakes that add up over time. And when we start making mistakes it can affect our esteem — and by extension, our self-confidence.
Check out my post on self-care strategies here
5. Get Out Of Your Comfort Zone
I know it can be a little intimidating, but it’s worth it, trust me. By pushing our limits we explore new territory and open ourselves to discovering our hidden potential.
For example, I know many writers are usually hesitant to publish their first book because they’re afraid they’ll fail. But the writers that manage to push through and become authors have gained confidence because of it. It becomes easier for them to publish more books after that.
When we get out of our comfort zone, we begin a process of learning. And as long as we’re open to the experience we’ll reap all the benefits.
Staying in our comfort zone is indeed “comforting” but we don’t grow when we stay inside it. Many women are capable of so many things, far more than they realize. It only takes getting out there and chasing our dreams to make it happen. So let’s get out there! 🙂