It’s All About them Toxic people are all about that “Me, me, me” life. When there’s been a terrible disaster; it’s a sign for them (the toxic person) to get their life together. When you win a medal, it’s a sign for them to step up and do better. Instead of taking the time to see life for what it is, toxic people choose to make everything that happens in the world all about themselves. When a toxic person congratulates you, it’s to give the impression o[...]
It’s not easy being a boss. Actually, it can be easy depending on your level of experience -- but being a good boss; well, that’s something else. Earning the respect of your team/employees is often confused with being a one-way deal. They (the team) have to listen to the boss, no matter what. Factually, this simply isn’t true. No boss wants a team of people-pleasers, and no boss wants a team that isn’t willing to follow simple instructions. It’s a tough balance to strike, but it ca[...]
It’s no stretch to say emotional manipulators suck. The danger of emotional manipulation comes from how effective it can be. People can end up losing track of their own reality and at times their individuality. It’s because of how dangerous emotional manipulation can be that I think it’s important to discuss it. It’s my hope that by talking about it we are able to recognize emotional manipulators before any permanent damage is done. Make no mistake, no one should ever undere[...]
Sometimes people think being hard on themselves is the answer. That the more we push ourselves, the easier it becomes to achieve our goals. If you’ve been following my blog for a while now you’ll know this isn’t entirely true. There’s research to show how not being self-compassionate makes it harder for us to pick ourselves up after a failure. We become overwhelmed by emotions and we learn less from our experiences. Instead of criticizing ourselves and pushing on without pause, we sh[...]
To be self-aware is the biggest gift we can give to others and ourselves. To be self-aware is incredibly difficult and it requires us to explore ourselves deeply -- getting to the core. To be self-aware, we need to know ourselves on the inside and out. On the inside, it means accepting our triggers, flaws and everything we’re good at. On the outside it means looking at how we relate to those around us; are we mean, kind, patient, or condescending? Getting these answers requires work. Th[...]